(I wrote this end January but somehow forgot to post it.)

Yesterday we lost a friend.

We thought it was 10 years ago but now we realise it was only yesterday.

Although we hadn’t seen him for 10 years, we realise now that he was still our friend.
In our hearts.
In our minds.
In our idealism.

It got me to thinking, how our egos and self interfere with the good life.
Who’s right? Who is wrong? And how it really doesn’t matter does it.

I wish I had grown up understanding that.

It is something that we are trying to instill unconsciously in our son, James,

but gosh it’s hard, that damn ego keeps confusing the issue.

We will now start doing it with more awareness and more intention.

A few years ago, on my 50th, another very special friend gave me a ring with an old Chinese proverb engraved on it:

“An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet,  regardless of time, place or circumstance.

The thread may stretch or tangle but it will never break.”

This is so very true and applies to people who have transitioned into the unknown,   people who were perhaps once a very big part of our lives  but who aren’t perhaps hand in hand with you anymore…  and it applies to our friend, Brent.

red thread

We get so caught up in our earthly bodies and minds that we forget we are all one, all connected and no matter how much we intentionally or unintentionally mess it up, that thread is there. It gets tangles, stretched…but it really will never break.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right doing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase “each other”
doesn’t make any sense.
The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the door sill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.”


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